Counselling is more than just talking: Debunking the myth

The Common Misconception:

Counselling is just talking right? No, its much more than that. There is a bit of a myth out there that counselling is just talking. You may have heard people say you just talk about problems — it's just a casual conversation or "venting." This is oversimplifying what therapy truly involves. And indeed how powerful it can be at creating change in your life.

Is counselling just talking? No, its more than that.

The reality of counselling:

Counselling is a complex, structured, and skilful process that integrates psychological theories, evidence-based techniques, and interpersonal skills. It is tailored to each individual’s needs and aims for meaningful change.

What counselling entails:

Assessment and goal setting: Understanding someone's background and establishing a clear plan/goal for the therapy.

Use of evidence-based techniques: Employing approaches like Person-centred, Existential, Cognitive, Somatic approaches, Psychodynamic therapy, and Mindfulness, all of which require specialised training. Even this only covers a few approaches, there are many.

Skill development: Teaching practical coping strategies, emotional regulation, communication, and problem-solving skills.

Processing and insight: Deep emotional work to uncover root causes and promote personal understanding and development.

Behavioural and emotional change: Implementing new habits, challenging negative thoughts, and sometimes including active interventions such as homework or role-playing. Again there are many options available depending on your counsellors training - which is often extensive.

Why recognising this matters: Understanding that counselling is a structured and skilful process encourages individuals to seek qualified professionals and appreciate the transformative potential of therapy.

Conclusion: Counselling is far more than just talking; it is a professional, evidence-based process aimed at fostering emotional healing, behavioural change, and personal growth. And lets not forget a key part of that is also the relationship with your counsellor. And lets not forget that the relationship with your counsellor is also a crucial component in the healing process.

How to ensure your counsellor has the right credentials for your needs

To ensure your counsellor has the right qualifications, start by checking their educational background and certifications from reputable institutions. Any professional will be happy to share these with you, its ok to ask. Ask about insurance, professionals cannot practice without it. It’s also helpful to research their experience and areas of expertise to ensure they align with your needs. Many counsellors don't ask their clients for reviews to maintain client confidentiality but you may know someone who could offer a personal recommendation, you might find that helpful.

Verifying these details helps you choose a qualified counsellor who can provide the support and guidance you need.

Whomever you decide to work with - check them out, its ok to ask questions, this also shows an active participation needs and healing.